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A New Beginning

Good day to all who have followed my blog for such a long time. I know I have not posted much on my blog lately but have been so busy with writing for clients and started a new passion of mine in a new website.

Please feel free to check it out and share. I would appreciate it if you follow me there as well.

My new website is all about reviews – Let’s Be Honest Reviews


Hope you all had a blessed Easter Weekend – and let us not forget that Christ is Risen to prepare a place in the kingdom for us.



I have decided to help my daughter by placing some book writing, she wrote and would love to hear from all my followers in advising us if the writing is worth the while to finish. The work is still very rough and still needs to be changed and illustrations to be added. Please leave comments if you think she should go ahead and finish the book and if you do not like it please advise us on the feeling you have. We would like honest opinions please as she does not want to waste her time if it is not at least good.

Unreal Fantasy

The Beginning

On the planet Notorious there exist two completely different races. The Fair-skinned, who thought of themselves as civilised and who believed that they were above all other living creatures. However, they still lived in fear, dreading that one day they would be attacked by another of their kind who wants what they posses. Then there were the Barbarians, a name which the Fair-skinned gave them. They were a more peaceful race, who made a living from the land. They did have disputes between their tribes, but it seldom led to violence. So why were they given such a savage name? Was it because they were not understood or perhaps that they were feared?
But this is not a tale about the differences of two races. It is a tale of one girl in particular who brought them together. This girl’s name was Alexis. She was the only daughter of the richest Fair-skinned couple in Dunland – Mr and Mrs Owen. Even though they were rich, they were wonderful people. They were compassionate but above all they adored their daughter and loved her more than anything in their life. She was given the best life that they could give her, they would have given her the world even but it was not theirs to give.
Alexis was different from other peers her age. She was a loveable girl who cared about anything living, looking out more for others. It was not only her personality that made her beautiful. She was also blessed with angelic looks. As a result of being different, she never truly fitted in. Sometimes even her parents would find themselves in a situation where they did not completely understand her.
As if that was not enough, her whole world as she knew it was turned upside down in a blink of an eye.

It was her 19th birthday, a day, which was supposed to be wonderful, but instead turned out into her worst nightmare. She started the day by helping out at the local shelter as she usually did even though her parents did not understand why she would do such a thing on her birthday of all days. All she kept telling them was that the small children at the shelter needed her. Her time at the shelter flew by fast, full of laughter and joy. When she headed home, she was in a very happy mood.
She felt like she was walking on air, but as she opened the front door, an uneasy feeling ran through her body. The house was too quiet. In the end, optimism got the better of her, thoughts of dread and fear dispersed as happy scenarios filled her head that only made the shock more severe. As she walked into the living room, her eyes fell on a gruesome scene, on the floor, she found her parents’ bodies lying in pools of blood. A sad picture compared to the birthday decorations and presents stacked in the room. Her knees gave way, turning to jelly as she collapsed beside them, tears clouding her eyes. Tons of thoughts bombarded her mind. Her whole world started spinning around and around until everything faded to black.

When she woke up, she was lying in her bed. She almost thought it was all just a dream if it was not for the stranger looking at her as she opened her eyes. “Good morning, Miss Owen, I was glad to see that you are finally awake. I am Mr Johnson, your parents’ lawyer, but you can call me Jarred.”
She sat up in her bed, confused from all the events that had happened and now some stranger was staring at her and claiming that he was her parents’ lawyer. It was all just too much for her.
“Sorry, I know that a lot have happened in your life in just a few hours and that you are still trying to make sense of everything. I am also sorry about the death of your parents and I promise you that the law will find those who are responsible, but it is my responsibility to your parents to ensure that you looked after. You are only 19, meaning that you are still a minor, according to the Law and therefore will need a guardian. I found out that you are alone except for your mother’s sister, Grace. I have spoken to her and confirmed that you will be leaving with her today still, she will be your legal guardian.” Even though he sounded sincere and sorry, the emotion did not seem to reach his eyes or face.
She did not know what to say, staring at him forlornly as she fought to keep her composure. “What? This cannot be! How can this stranger just tell her what to do? She just lost her parents and now she will lose her life and freedom too. Her aunt hated them and despised her. Her life will be living hell. Although they can take her freedom, they will never take her heart and soul. Money is not as important as that.”
“Well, Miss your things are packed and ready. You must just get dressed and then join us downstairs.” With those words he left her room, as cold hearted as he entered, leaving her with only her thoughts to keep her company.

Finally dressed in her maroon coloured travelling dress and matching slippers, her golden hair clipped into place on her head, she walked down the stairs, ready to face her fate. What greeted her there revolted her. Her aunt was sitting there like she was the queen of the castle. “Oh, Alexis, it is good to see that you finally decided to join us. We’re in a bit of a hurry, we must still catch our ship you know and get back home as soon as possible. So come, come, let’s leave now.” With that brisk command, they left her house and life behind. Leading her toward her new life, one she was unwilling to be part of but had no choice in.


As a child, I can remember going to school and dealing with the “bully”, that one child that always makes another child’s life a misery at school, threatening you to be able to make them either very popular, or just afraid of them.  In South African schools bullying has become an immense problem, not only at school, but in our communities too, and we need to start facing the facts that bullying has passed the level of only small children scaring others.

Bullying is not just restricted in schools that are middle class or poor it has become a major problem regardless of school size, racial structure, whether the school is in a wealthy, middle class or poor area.  Bullying has grown to the stage that now includes physical anger, threats, teasing and harassment and has even lead to violence from shooting to knife stabbing.  The bully has become a nightmare for children and has left deep emotional scars.

If your child has become a victim, you want to prevent it and help to stop it.  Bullying can be unlearned or even better, be prevented.

Familiarizing yourself with the Bully

As a child we have all been teased by family or friends and it’s not usually harmful, but when the teasing becomes harsh, vicious and constant, it crosses the line into bullying and needs to stop.

Bullying comes in many forms from hitting, name-calling, threats and even forcing children from their possessions.  Others spread rumors about them, and social media and electronic messaging has become a new way of hurting their feelings.  Bullying in today’s day and age must be taken serious and not be ignored as the saying goes “kids have to learn to be tough”.  The consequence has caused tragedies, such as suicides and school shootings.

Why Children become bullies?

There are a variety of reasons that children become bullies.  Some children annoy others because that’s how they have been treated.  They have come under the impression that it’s normal to bully as they come from families or surroundings where everyone gets angry and uses verbal abuse.  The bully needs to feel important, popular, or in control.

 Is your child being bullied?

As a child, we never spoke to our parents when we had been bullied at school making it very difficult for parents to know that their children are victims of bullying at school.  Some children do show warning signs if there are no visible bruises or injuries and these are the signs to look out for:

  • Children start acting differently.
  • Appear anxious.
  • Children are not eating as they use to.
  • Lack of sleep.
  • Children stop doing the things they usually enjoyed doing.
  • Children start showing signs that they do not want to go to school anymore.

Helping Your Child

If and when your child tells you that they are being bullied, stay calm and offer comfort and support.  Children feel it’s their fault that they are victims of bullies.  They are scared that when the bully finds out that they have notified someone, the bullying will become worse.  They feel ashamed or that their parents will be angry or upset with them.

Most important talk to your children and tell them that if they are being bullied it’s very important to talk to someone about it.  Praise your child when they do talk to you about it as this is very important to build a close relationship with your child.  Comfort your child that together you will find a way to prevent the bullying from occurring again.

In some cases, it’s helpful to talk to the teachers or counselors at the school.  Most schools these days have bullying policies and anti-bullying programs in place.

Advice for Children

We as parents play a major role in our children’s lives and we can learn them on how to deal with the bully.  The following strategies can be followed to help improve the situation and make them feel better:

  • Advise your child that it is important to not react to the bullying by fighting back as it can cause more problems.  Advise them to rather walk away.
  • Advise an adult that you are being bullied.
  • If being bullied use the buddy system with friends and make sure that they should always be in groups.
  • Advise them to hold their anger and to practice to not react by crying or being upset.  Advise them, it’s better to just walk away and ignore them.

Restore your child’s confidence

To deal with bullying you can help your child to boost their confidence.  Encourage them to spend time with friends.  Provide a listening ear about any difficult situation they may find themselves growing up to be adults.  Believe in your child and assure them that you will help them deal with problems that may be taking place and so prevent the bullying chain reaction that is occurring in this world.





Presentation2We all have had the problem with our minds not switching off when we try to sleep.  At least I have had that problem in the past and still do.  I will lie in bed and my mind is all over the place thinking of everything that comes to mind.  You toss and you turn all the time and when you look again it is late and by the time you wake up in the morning you are so tiered you do not want to even move out of bed.  You see we all have that problem sometimes.

So I have decided to share something to do making your body to relax before going to bed.  I have started doing this procedure during the day even when I feel I am all tensed up and it makes me relax.

Beginning with the toes, first tighten and relax all the muscles in your body, so that you are able to identify the difference between tight and relaxed.

 Then tighten each part of your body in turn. First tighten the toes and let go.  Do this three times. 

 Then tighten the ankles and release them slowly.  Again repeat three times.  Every bit is done in threes.  Concentrate on each part you tighten.

Tighten the calves and let go then follow to the thighs following the same procedure.  Finally for this part tighten the full length of your legs completely and release, again repeating three times. (This exercise is great for restless leg syndrome.) 

 Now move on to the rest of your body.  Repeating as usual for each part, tighten in turn your buttocks, your stomach, your spine, your neck, your hands, your arms and your neck, your face and your scalp concentrate on the different points. 

 Finally tighten every single muscle you have used, and let go completely.  Repeat three times, and by now you should recognise the difference between the state of relaxation at the beginning of the exercise, and the one at the end.

In time with practice you should be able to relax completely just by doing the last part of the exercise, but for now take it slowly and feel your body relax and with time you will feel the your muscles and mind relaxing.  Hope it helps you as it has helped me.







Sitting here all alone on my bed, music playing softly in the back waiting for my hubby dearest to arrive home from work as it is already late my mind started wondering to the past week we had.  I just had to share it as it is very important to me.

Thinking back what a week it had been, it started with me on the Monday 10th February 2014 browsing the net to my surprise my husband came home early from work.  He had lost his job and with me being without a job for two years now working on and off on contract, he had been the sole breadwinner for us me relying on him most of the time.  I went all pale in my face and quiet listening and taking all off it in.

My husband worked for the past five years with a very difficult man with no human feelings at all.  He use to arrive home some days very negative and did not want to go back to work many a times, but with us in the situation we where he had no choice.

I looked at him and said it will be fine we must just believe and keep faith.  We both decided to advertise our motorbike on the net to be sold, thinking we must make a plan to survive and it could take some time for a sale to take place.  By the evening the motorbike had been sold and God provided money to keep us going till either one of us had a work.

As the week progressed we applied for three job applications for him.  By Thursday afternoon a gentleman phoned him for an interview the Friday morning.  As Friday arrived we read a verse my mom had sent us to read out of Psalm 56.  We read the whole chapter but the verse that stayed in our minds was the following:

When I am afraid, I will trust in you,

In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust:

I will not be afraid.                     

What can a mortal man do to me?

My husband went to the interview and he started working today.  When in doubt believe and trust in God.  He is in control of your life and he makes all possible for those that believe in him.  Leave all your fears, pain and concerns with him and it will be provided in his time.

That is why I do believe in miracles of God.  God made this possible for us and I praise him for that in all what I do.














Where there is life, there is hope.  These words are so true.  I have been through many trials and tribulations regarding my life from being in an alcoholic home to losing all my belongings we worked so hard for, but there has always been one who I can trust in my Father God with all that happened in our lives he has always provided for us and a very special friend.  I have never gone to bed hungry or even dirty.  I have always had a warm place to stay.  I praise Him for always listening to my prayers and all the tantrums I have had.

It could have been worse than it had been.  It does not matter what trials and misfortune we all go through if we say up these nine words aloud to ourselves, we feel much better.  It’s like taking medicine not very sweet and most off the time very bitter and not easy to swallow.  You do not always believe that it will help you when swallowing it down.  It takes time for it to work.

There are days that that you need this sentence much more than other days.  We believe that our problems are much greater than others problems and that is where we make our mistake.  This is what you do just sit and switch on your telly.  On that screen there are many people all over the world going through much worse problems than what you have been going through, from people being murdered to people losing everything in their lives. When you see people going through hardship and pain, your problems are not as bad as theirs.  Then you sigh and say these magical words: “It could have been worse than it had been.”

It is so true.  Many things could have been worse. If you had broken your one leg it could have been worse you could have broken two.  But one day you will stand up and look back at those problems and think about them going forward and always remember that there is Hope!

Hope you find with your Creator and other people that are always there to listen.  I want to thank my special friend she knows who I am referring to as she has listened to me and has gone through many hardships herself.  Always being there for me even if we do not see each other that often and making me believe in my-self.  Remember there is hope and if you do not have anyone to talk to please feel free to just drop me an email I will listen.  I may not be able to solve the problem but at least you have someone to talk to.

God Bless and take care keep faith and believe.


If only I knew what this day would hold for me,

I would have easily shaken off my fears,

If only I could see where you are leading me Father,

I would thank you more and plead much less,

If only I looked up at you I would hold on to the promises,

I would reject all the lies,

If only I had more trust to confide in your plans for me,

I would realize how little we need to depend on others,

Help me please to look back and realize how much you have done for me,

So that my faith can become stronger for the road ahead,

That I can realize that the long road full off twist and turn has always been better,

Than the short and easy road,

Remind me Lord that I am not alone, that you are always walking beside me,

Remind me Lord every day how far I have progressed to complete this,

Walk of life I am doing with you by my side.


The beauty that God have given us♥

When we look at nature all around♥

The calm of the sea♥

As one looks over the bay♥

The mountains far in the background♥

Are grey blue in color♥

The clouds hold a promise of change in the weather♥

The birds on the rocks♥

Waiting for the fish they need♥

Knowing and trusting God♥

To provide them with food♥

What are we but God’s creatures?♥

Also needing God for our comforts♥

We are those people♥

Who do not submit to his will?♥

We want to go our own way♥

Bumping our heads as we go♥

Why can’t we be like those in nature putting our trust in God?♥

They do not have the minds like we have♥

And yet they know♥

That is only his hand that provides them so♥ 

(Alfreda Doidge)



The night has passed

You dear Lord has held me in your arms

Thank you for the love and mercy given

You have protected me from harm

Although sleep was broken by thoughts

I knew you were there to help

And as the time passed

My life was in your loving hands

You always listen to ones prayers

As one used those hours

Sometimes when kneeling no thoughts came my way

But I know that your presence was there

We praise you Lord God

We give thanks to you Lord God

We worship you Lord God

Just for being there

Praise you.